如何為與親戚破裂的關係道歉?


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我有一個親戚,與他的舉止不好。不粗魯,不是說我沒有好話,沒有發太多短信,因此當這個親戚需要我時我不在那兒(雖然沒有大問題)。

現在,我與這個親戚之間有一個尷尬的關係:我通常以親戚之間的傳統相遇,但不是面對面的,我們彼此之間沒有太多話要說。

此外:

  • 我仍然沒有"在正確的時間說好話"
  • 我害怕我會說些什麼,因為它會被不好地理解

雖然我現在想做得更好,但是效率不高,因此我正在考慮對過去進行明確的道歉。我不確定是否可以找到這些單詞,也不確定親戚會在回應之前讓我清楚地解釋一下。

我如何清楚地表達我對過去和現在的感受?我想最大程度地減少誤會的風險。

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I have personally had difficulties with relatives in the past, and I have found the best way is to try and not repeat past mistakes, which you seem to be working on already, and also to "clear the air" about an old situation you may think to still be affecting your relationship. If possible, try and make plans with the person for coffee or lunch. I find that a shorter time is better in case things go poorly, you're not trapped in a long time commitment. Then, try starting with something like:

Family is important to me. I know that in the past I have had some issues expressing that to people, especially you, and I want you to know I'm really working on changing that.

It seems that this is true for you based on your statements, and then allowing the person to respond will be the next step.