如何與朋友談論她有關社交媒體的帖子?


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最近,我的一位朋友一直在她的社交媒體上撰寫有關帖子的文章。她說,"我的生活一直很艱辛","如果遭受如此多的痛苦,生活的意義是什麼?"我過去曾見過她的類似帖子,但是這次的措辭更為直接,每天的帖子數量也大大增加。

我有點擔心,我伸出手試圖通過評論以下內容與她開始對話。(我們都是中國人,她在中國,而我目前在加拿大。)

Your life seems really hard recently... did anything bad happen? Feel free to ping me if you want to talk to someone. I'm currently in Canada so there will be some time difference, though.

她的反應大致

Sorry for using the social media for venting and disturbing you browsing it!

我真的很擔心她,這並不是說我要阻止她發表負面情緒。如果他們真的很打擾,我本可以跟著她走。附帶說明,她在輔助帳戶上的發布者很少。也許她只是不想讓別人看到她的感受?如果有幫助,我可以取消關注她,但是她知道誰在關注該帳戶,因此我認為情況並非如此。

我沒有回應她的評論,而是在聊天應用程序上開始了對話,因為我覺得她可能更喜歡私密的對話。我告訴她,她沒有打擾我,我也發表了評論,因為我個人只有在找不到人可以交談時才在社交媒體上發洩。我還說過,我並沒有強迫她告訴我發生了什麼,如果願意,她可以繼續發帖。

她還沒有回复,但是現在是中國的午夜,所以我不確定她是否看到了消息。我可能在問她之前應該在這裡問過,但是我試圖在她上床之前發送友好的信息。

我如何向她保證我不會被帖子打擾,而只是想主動與她交談?我想學習我本可以做的不同的事情,以及她在再次道歉的情況下可以做的事情。

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I doubt you could have done anything much differently, given that you felt she was in trouble. She explained that she was merely venting and not in trouble, you explained your actions and she accepted that. There does not appear to be much left to do other than tell her that you accept her apology.

At the same time, you could reassure her that you misunderstood the reason of her posts but now you understand, and to feel free to keep on venting if that gives her relief. The thing is, some people feel better if they vent these feelings. It may sound like something really bad is happening but it's not. In reality, they're just feeling overwhelmed or frustrated or at a loss on dealing with life in general. After a good night's sleep they feel better, the world looks brighter, and they find productive ways of dealing with whatever confronts them in life.

Not all of us are that way. I suspect you are more like me. When I vent, I have a problem that I need help with to figure out how to solve. But I am learning that for some people the opportunity (and permission) to spout all the venom is a productive part of solving the problem. It's like they have to purge their system before they can think clearly. But they are aware that some people don't understand and are disturbed by this venting. It sounds to me as though this is what your friend is apologizing for. That's why I suggest for you to accept her apology (if she apologizes again) and assure her that you now understand.