如何讓媽媽了解我的恐懼症


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對於某些人來說這聽起來很有趣,但對我而言,這是有史以​​來最恐怖的事情。

對於任何答案/評論,請不要使用" li ......"一詞,這只會讓我感到噁心。請稱其為" IT"

背景故事:當我小的時候(8-10歲,現在我22歲),媽媽問我要帶些洗手間裡沒有的東西。但是我正忙著玩,沒聽見。一個小時後,我媽媽來了,她氣死了,她最終把我關在那個洗手間一段時間。

由於那個人不曾使用洗手間,所以它是骯髒的,空曠的,那是我第一次注意到爬行動物(蜥蜴)的時候。它嚇到我了,我哭了很多。從那天起,我就為爬行動物產生了恐懼症。

我不能在同一個房間裡,我想嘔吐,突然開始感到幽閉恐懼症。我已決定,我將尋求治療師來盡快治療恐懼症。不過,我不會告訴我媽媽,因為看到他們是一種禁忌。因此,我決定尋求秘密幫助。

這筆交易是我媽媽不明白的。我已經多次告訴她,由於那件事,我就是這樣。她聳了聳肩。

我試圖和她討論。對話示例:

ME:媽媽,我不能/不能,因為IT在那裡,所以不能去那裡。

SHE:已經很生氣克服它。快去做我告訴你的一切。

ME:媽媽,我真的很害怕,因為那天我不開玩笑,這對我來說是不可能的。我覺得它會落在我身上,我想逃跑。

SHE:*要么離開房間/ 結束對話 /告訴我如果我這樣我將過著怎樣的生活*

如今,如果我不做任何她要求的工作,她會罵我很多,因為我在同一房間或類似的地方看到了爬行動物。

我住在印度,所以4月-8月溫度上升,因此IT出現了很多次。

我不知道如何讓她理解?

我猜她是否理解她不會因此而責罵我。

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So, this is a messy situation in part because of your mother's relationship (direct/indirect) with your phobia. I'm also neither a psychologist nor in India, so I am not able to address those aspects of it in an impartial way. It's a lot to unpack, and you should do that with a professional.

However, here are some general tips I have for getting personal acquaintances to understand a phobia:

  1. Explaining what a phobia means by definition. Phobias are irrational fears - you cannot control them, and they cannot be rationalized away. Oftentimes, people get very real, very PHYSICAL ailments from them, e.g. panic attacks, an inability to move, etc. They seem "bizarre" to other people because they are irrational. That is entirely the point. And once people realize that, they are less likely to believe they can explain it away. If they still think they can, they probably didn't grasp the concept. I've found repetition helps, but it depends on the person.

  2. Acknowledge the rational part of the situation and emphasize what happens because of a phobia - you (in your head) know that it's safe, but you can't help feeling sick when you see something that causes your phobia.

  3. Trying to overcome the phobia in small, piece-wise steps. Sometimes you're just not ready - and that's perfectly valid!! But when people see you trying, they might give you more leeway. At least it looks like it's getting better, and if it isn't, at least you look proactive in trying to get rid of it.

I wish I could say more, but I am not qualified to do so. Hopefully these tips can still be useful in some capacity. Best of luck with everything!